ask for work skills
There is no do not a thing, only people who will not work. Will work a person can be in the complicated environment, ease of life to control the situation, always good luck, the impossible becomes possible, and finally achieve their goal. The key is to see what method you use, what skills, what means.
who will work, work efficiency so smooth, that the sorts of things to do to perfection; who will work, life and bring always smooth, can achieve great success.
people can not live without things, big, small, wedding, anxieties, bothering ... ... these And want to solve some difficult things, you must learn to ask for help. So, how to ask for things it?
first psychological hurdle over
Since I can not it-yourself, we could confidently go to ask for, ask for help have to seek chic, comfortable, ask for help do not bluff, empty talk, but do not have to dingy, begging to implore pity, as the fancy ridicule.
Second, choose the best routes and methods
is now a clear division of labor, to find that person, may not be accomplishing something, we must find out the situation, identify the people who can help you.
Third, patient
recourse to others, not necessarily what is ripe, the other undaunted, apathy and even rejected all possible, you do not feel this to lose face, insulted, thus losing patience.
Fourth, understand that some people ask for things
people, and believe that those who are seeking some magical wand, something done Chrysostom opened, on the stroke of a pen into. In fact not the case. Everyone has their own difficulties, if you can share, understand the difficulties, ask for things to not feel too hard.
Fifth, the requirement of others not to act too
do not ask for hot pursuit, we must do to others what extent, or to feel that not enough meaning. That is, ask for things to be content, others can do much to do much, do not force people to do difficult things to do. For example, ask for help from the most simple things started. If you set goals too high, so people make things difficult, it is best to seek second; second fails to find again. Even the little things to others, you have to cherish. Yesterday we had a few friends in the chat, accidentally comes to ask for work topic.
Some said: I support the latter view.
we have too much frustration in real life, you have to ask for help. If you are an unemployed youth, hoping to find a cake and work; if you are an employee, hoping to skyrocket; If you are a patient, want doctors to care for their own treatment; If you have an urgent need hope borrow the sum of money ... ... This is many, large and small, would constitute a life of hope. Life will force you have to turn to others, and whether it can get other people's
Some people ask for a reference to frown, and even ashamed to tell people, they ask for help feel a bias, that it must be groveling, obsequious's. In actual fact, help to others to strike must be based on self-esteem, self-respect, self-love as a precondition, be humble and not seek, find and not lean. In my opinion, to successfully obtain the help of others, must follow two basic principles. First, the sincere courtesy. As the saying goes, as good as one is open, polite, ask for it is a prerequisite for success; second. To avoid the taboo. For each of the different personalities and life experiences, words and actions of certain scruples, so dry million not to offend. When we are asking people, the first wish of that person's habits, temperament, knowledge and experience and so do some reconnaissance, and then calmly go, you will get unexpected results.
we are asking in good faith to others, but not necessarily other people will be able to meet our requirements. When we refused, do not over look for the reasons. Indeed, the heart was rejected was very upset, and no one wants to know why, but if pursued to haunt each other, not ask what the reason is not, tend to undermine the feelings of both. Not when you ask for, do not insist too much. Already rejected the other side, there is a reason, if too much stick to their demands, not only will make things difficult for each other, but also to their passive position. A lot of unpleasant things in life, why care about the small stuff on a stop? After being refused to do Huodadaduo, open mind.
knowing that when you refused psychological, may wish to put their words interrupted, simply that it does not matter, and then turn to comfort each other a few words, please do not mind him. Other party will feel sorry, maybe later will be very active to help you!
life, you both have sunny weather, so everyone needs someone regret in life!
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